Labels are for Jars, not People
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Dear Reader, Breaking Through the Power of Labels I had a client recently share an interesting encounter with her 28-year-old son. The young man had identified so strongly with the "label" of being depressed and anxious that it seemed to define his entire existence. When he eventually came to meet me, his opening statement was quite definitive: "I am depressed and you can't help me." Rather than challenging his identity, I reframed: "You have many thoughts that make you feel depressed." He insisted he was depressed ALL the time. That's when I proposed something unconventional: "Let's bet on it. I'll give you ₹1000 that sometimes you have normal thoughts and experience other feelings." His shocked expression quickly turned to laughter. "You're betting with your client?" he asked, amused. "You just proved my point," I replied gently. "You're having amusing thoughts right now, and for this brief moment, you weren't experiencing depressed feelings." I reminded him: "Labels are for jars, not people." Today, this young man is designing his life toward previously unlived goals, taking it one day at a time—what we call "MAKE IT HAPPEN" at LPCC. Sometimes the most powerful therapeutic moments come from helping someone see beyond the labels they've assigned themselves. What labels are you living by? I would love to connect and see how we can move beyond them. Reply to this email if you want to speed up your journey to your dreams. Best, Alka www.alkadidi.in |
Alka Didi
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